Silicone wont survive there for sure...
Doubling the gasket will leave leak problems...
I would check for problems between the head and manifold...casting irregularity or head problem in that area...
You might tighten them to 30 lbs but I wouldnt go more than that...doubtful if 25 to 30 lbs would make enough difference to seal it up for you...
The muffler sealer stuff might work or even actually the furnace stuff...
I will guess the manifold is the leak source...might have to try to find another one to seal it up good...let us know what you find when you get in there...
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